Friday, November 27, 2015

Shop local, small, and creative!

What better gift than one that supports your friend to reach her goals, tells your brother you believe in him, supports your child's growing? Saturday is for shopping Small Businesses, and Monday for shopping online, and always shopping local makes for healthier communities. How about if you can roll them all into one package? Feels pretty good? Here are three ideas for people on your list:

Boston Martial Arts Center
New Child or Adult Student
If you know someone who wants to try out a martial art, or a new activity, or who wants to work toward confidence and self-defense, call Mark Davis at BMAC for a New Student package! A new uniform and the first month free for $39.95 (a +60% discout!) will make trying it out a joy! Classes for adults and kids 3-5, 5-12, and young adult. http://www.bostonmartialartscenter.com

Cuisine en Locale
Once A Week Meals
We all know we want to eat better, and that eating better means cooking. But... it can be hard to have the energy and time, and some people think healthy can't taste good. The brilliant chefs at CeL will make eating better easy, and fabulous with over 40 pounds of amazing, all-locale, all whole food meals delivered to your door, waiting to feed you in a busy week night! There are different sizes, and different diets available to choose from.
http://cuisineenlocale.com

Kitchen Table Health
Home Herbalism 201
Know someone interested in health, herbs, healing and nourishing? Each monthly 2-hour session will cover major body systems, and how to nourish and treat them with safe and effective herbs.  Tea tastings and discussion included. Each class is normally $35, but you can get a gift pack of 4 or 5 at $25/each!
http://kitchentablehealth.blogspot.com/2015/11/home-herbalism-201-herbs-for-wellness.html


There are dozens of other local, online, creativity/growth-supporting ideas out there! Support your loved ones' New Year's Resolutions, or encourage them to try something new this year.

Saturday, November 7, 2015

Home Herbalism 201: Herbs for Wellness and Healing

I am very excited to announce that I am starting a new series of classes for you to start taking care of yourself and your family! Each session will cover part of the body and the herbs that support and heal, and how they work. We will make and taste various remedies for common concerns; we will talk about preventive care and remedies; we will explore how to use what we learn in practical and doable ways. And we will have fun!


Schedule of classes:


Saturday, November 21st, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 1: Digestion and Elimination -- Making Your You

Just before seasonal feasting, we will discuss how we get everything we need from what we eat, and how to support healthy digestion. From anticipation to taste, from nutrients to hormones, from "healthy diet" to food sensitivities, we will help you build the best you. We'll also cover how best to support digestion -- ways to feel more comfortable with all the rich foods in your immediate future!

Saturday, December 12th, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 2: Circulation and Lymphatic -- Moving Everything Around

In time for the New Year and letting things go, we will explore how your body moves the building blocks, waste, messages, and immune responses throughout your body. We'll look at how best to support all that movement, and keeping things flowing optimally. This is a great time of year to pay attention to your heart and the sweeping away of debris from the past!

Saturday, January 16th, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 3: Nervous, Skeletal, and Muscular Systems -- Moving You

Deep winter is the most challenging time for our nervous and skeletomuscular systems -- Come prepare for a happier, healthier winter! We will look at how to use herbs and habits to support a strong and flexible you!

Saturday, February 13th, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 4: Respiratory and Entaugumentary -- Breathing and Barriers

The air is cold and dry, drying out your nose and skin, making you vulnerable and uncomfortable. We'll cover how to support these crucial interfaces between you and the outside world, places for taking in and keeping out.

Saturday, March 26th, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 5: Immune System and First Aid -- How Your Body Heals

Your amazing body does all the healing you will ever need! With herbs and habits we can support this impressive work. Before the season of allergies, you can head them off at the pass; before the season of accidents, you can learn what to do when they happen. Your immune system crosses all the boundaries between systems and parts, making it a great way to pull things together from other sessions.

Saturday, April 30th, 3-5 pm, Brighton
Session 6: Reproductive Systems and Wrapping Up -- Coming Full Circle

In women and men, throughout most of our lives, we experience the cycles of reproductive and productive energy. These also manage the changes from childhood to adulthood, and the changes later in adulthood into maturity. These cycles are also deeply connected with how we interact with the community around us. We will look at regular cycles, and supporting them, as well as the reproductive year (pregnancy through childbirth and infancy).

For more information or to register for classes

{Link coming soon!}
Email Kerry (kerry _ kokkino @ yahoo . com) for online registration or how to register by other means.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Welcome to the Milkbar! How to get breastfeeding started

You're having a baby! So much excitement and joy! And, it can feel like there is so much to learn.
Most women in the U.S. want to breastfeed, but many run into problems or complications or bad advice, and end up stopping long before they wanted to. The key to success is support. The right kind of support for you, your little one, and your particular challenges. (This is true of pretty much all of parenting, though.) This book with help you find in-person, online, or telephone support, understand a good position and latch (which will prevent more breastfeeding problems than anything else), realistic expectations of babiness, tricks of the trade, and more! With Welcome to the Milkbar!, you get the confident voice of experience to get you started on the right foot.

To buy Welcome to the Milkbar!, go here.

If you have questions, email me here.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Home Herbalism 101 -- Parts 2, 3, and 4!

We just completed Part 1 on Saturday, and it was a great class! Fabulous questions; each person got something different from the class; even the weather conspired to make a great day! We decocted hawthorn and rose hips, slow-steeped marshmallow root, and made a few quick teas: nettles, ginger, and a liver/kidney/nervine mix. We looked at a rapid history of Western herbalism and healing, and discussed the digestive system, as the center of health and how to (generally) support its wellness. Finally, we identified and tasted weeds/herbs growing right in the average yard.

We now have dates for the rest of the classes! I am so looking forward to the next class -- I hope you can join us! :)

Part 2: Air and Alcohol (and vinegar)

Saturday, July 11th, 2-5 pm

For this class we will talk about the respiratory, circulatory, and lymphatic systems; take a walk to a park to see a greater variety of weed-herbs; and will work with alcohols and vinegars. We'll talk about how to pick different menstrua (the alcohol or vinegar), and will make a tincture, mustard, and fire cider, all of which you will have to take home with you. (If you'd like to learn a little about the fire cider controversy, see here, and here, and here.) The class is $40 and will include materials.

To register online, click here!



Part 3: Earth and Honey

Saturday, July 18th, 2-5 pm

We will cover the skeletal-muscular, and integumentary (skin and skin-like parts), and immune systems. We will work with honey and molasses in multiple ways. And we will visit the wild and weedy banks of the Charles River for edible and healing plants.

Register here!


Part 4: Fire and Oil

Saturday, August 8th, 2-5 pm

We will discuss the nervous system, and reproduction. We will use oils and waxes to create ointments and butters. And we will explore more of the river banks.

Register here!

Each class is $40, including supplies, or you can register for all four for $140 (a 50% discount on the last session!) **You can sign up for them one at a time, and get the discount retroactively.** 
All classes take place in Brighton.

Register for the series here!

Sunday, June 14, 2015

Mama's Herbal: Pregnancy to Baby Care

You are pregnant, or you want to be! With all the joy and excitement, pregnancy and birth are short stages of life that involve tremendous change, very quickly. While neither is an illness in need of treatment, that much change so quickly comes with challenges. It is these challenges and discomforts that this book will address, sooth, to make your journey more comfortable. From pre-conception, through morning sickness and hemorrhoids, completing labor and newborn care, this herbal is all about you, baby! Using a handful of safe, nutritive, and often-used herbs, this will guide you through the discomforts and everyday surprises of this dynamic transition.


Click here to buy your copy!
Email me here if you have questions.

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Herbalism 101: Part 1 -- Water



Do you want to know what to do with herbs? To start healing yourself, your family, with what's in your kitchen and yard? I'm introducing a four-part series on herbal approaches to health, medicine making, and spotting the plants around you. Perfect for those who are just getting started and want a clearer picture of what they are doing!

Part 1 -- Water **June 20th, 2-5 pm**
Perspective and Theory:
We will start with some context (a brief history and basic idea of the theory behind Western Herbalism), then jump right in to the center and source of health and wellness: digestion. From that center, we will also address nurition, and the eliminatory systems.

Medicine Making:
We will make tea and broth in different ways, plus washes, poultices, and compresses. We will experience both the preparing and receiving of care.

Plants:
For this first class we will explore the weeds in your yard, both ones you know, and ones that may be new. We will also explore how to identify if a new plant is safe to eat or not.

To register for Part 1 online, click here!

Part 2 -- Air and Alcohols:
For this class, we will explore respiration, circulation, and the lymphatic system. We will make tinctures, liniments, vinegars, etc. And we will explore a park for more weed variety.

Part 3 -- Earth and Syrups:
We will discuss skeletal-muscular and integumentary systems, as well as immune function. We will work with honey and molasses multiple ways. And we will visit the wild and weedy banks of the Charles River.

Part 4 -- Fire and Oils:
We will discuss the nervous system and reproduction. We will use oils and waxes to create ointments and butters. And we will explore more plants along the river.

Each class is $40 including supplies, or you can sign up for all four for $140. **You can sign up for one and convert to the series rate later one.** These will take place in Brighton and will be scheduled for Saturday afternoons. While the dates for parts 2-4 are not yet finalized, they will be in July and early August, and will be posted shortly.

For more information and to register, email me.

Friday, April 10, 2015

Spring Clean YOU!



For the last six months, HALF THE YEAR!, we’ve been indulging in one holiday-related sugar-feast or alcohol-binge after another! Almost monthly since last Halloween there has been something going on. Your body needs a break. Plus, the sun is shinning more! Summer fun-time feels better and is more fun if you give your body the tune-up it needs!



Join us to feel and be healthier: How to detox safely and gently, how to manage the sugar monster we’ve created, how to nourish and care for your body in a balanced way.

No judgments – All support!


Saturday, April 25th, 3-5 pm
Boston Martial Arts Center
161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston
Workshop is $30; $35 at the door

Registration is now open!

Email here for more information, or go straight to the online store to register!

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Feel Better Herbally: Support for Allergies, Colds, and Flu!!

Summer is winding down and the air has shifted to the crispness of early fall. Does the smell of leaves remind you of sneezing? I love fall, but oooooooh, those seasonal allergies! And, as kids return to classrooms, and everyone starts to spend more time indoors, cold and flu season rears its sniffly head.

Join us to look at easy and accessible ways to avoid, decrease, or ameliorate all of the above! Support your immune system, increase feeling healthy, and enjoy your fall.

We'll work with herbs that are available at your grocery store and are simple to prepare -- if you can make tea or soup, you can enjoy all the benefits of herbal health!


Saturday, September 27th, 3-6 pm
Boston Martial Arts Center
161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston

Pre-Registration: $40
At the door: $45

To register, email kerry_kokkino@yahoo.com, or go online here.

Friday, June 20, 2014

Exciting and Fun Herbal Talks This Summer!!

Herbalism, plant-based medicine, is a health model that supports you in learning about your body and what makes you well. That reconnection with yourself is something to be shared! I am excited to be able to share my knowledge and experience on this topic. Here is the line up of classes, demonstrations, and events I'll be involved with this summer -- something for everyone:

June 21st, 3-6 pm
Healthy, Happy Hormones! Supporting your teen, pre-teen or self through hormonal highs and lows

Location: Boston Martial Arts Center, 161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston
More info here.


July 12th, 3-6 pm
A Sensory Introduction to Western Herbalism: Reclaiming your health and getting to know healing plants

Location: Boston Martial Arts Center, 161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston
(Easy municipal parking behind the building; down the street from the B-line.)

You are your own best expert on your body, in health and in illness, and how something (medicine, food, stress, etc.) impacts you. However, our culture and medicine tells us we don't know ourselves, trains us to ignore our body's cues and communications. In this interactive class, we will use our sensory interaction with healing plants to reconnect to our innate knowledge and practice a mindful awareness of our own sensory responses. We will also discuss how these body-cues can show us a great deal about the plants we are working with. Plants and people have evolved together and share a language. We will use Western Herbalism to put this information into words and make it accessible.

Cost:
Reduced Price: $40 for the talk and tastings

To register: email kerry_kokkino@yahoo.com or online here.


July 19th, 10-2 pm

Kitchen Magic at the Farmers Market: Topical first aid preparations you can make at home

Location: Egleston Square Farmers Market, 45 Brookside Ave, Jamaica Plain

Wouldn't it be nice to neutralize poison ivy? Sooth a bruise or sprain? Wash away stress? Working with herbs from Blue Vervain Farm, we will prepare easy home remedies for mild first aid situations. Come by and learn how to make a variety of simple-yet-effective medicines for yourself and your family!

No cost, no registration


August 5th, 6:30-8 pm
Avoid the Sneezes: Herbal immune support and allergy relief

Location: Faneuil Branch, Boston Public Library, 419 Faneuil Street, Brighton
(Easy on-street parking; near #57 and 64 bus routes.)

The sun is shining! The birds are chirping! The flowers are out -- Aaaaachoo! Hay fever making you sneezy, sniffly, drowsy and at least two other of the seven dwarves? (And none of them Happy?) Do you expect it to come back this fall? With a little herbal support, you can head off your allergies before they hit, or take the edge off them and feel better soon. We will also cover stronger herbal remedies and acute attacks, their benefits and disadvantages, and overall immune support, to keep that hay fever from letting in a cold fever. A great way to enjoy the beautiful plants of summer, while preparing for the changing seasons.

No cost, no registration


August 11-15th and 18-20th, 10-3 pm
Wild Herbs for Kids of All Ages!

Location: Littleton, MA (address provided upon registration)

Bring your children, and/or your inner child and explore healing herbs all around us, waiting to be part of your health and awareness! With Meridians of Health, we will learn to identify, harvest and prepare at least 10 herbs you see every day to include in your diet and first aid kit. We will use play, drawing, hands-on harvesting, preparing, eating and crafting to get to know each herb personally and practically. Each family will leave with several herbal medicines and crafts, and the knowledge of how and why to make and use them. This fun week-and-a-half (by last year's popular demand) will engage your senses, imagination, and mind!

Cost:
Registration until July 28th: $300 (including materials and fees for all 8 days!) 
**$75 family discount**

To register: email meridiansofhealth@gmail.com or call 857-600-2TEA



August 30th, 3-6 pm
Herbs for the Athlete: Preventing and healing sports injuries

Location: Boston Martial Arts Center, 161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston
(Easy municipal parking behind the building; down the street from the B-line.)

Whether your athlete is training for a marathon, engaged in a contact sport, or just climbing trees, herbs can help you prevent many related problems (dehydration, fatigue, suppressed immune function, etc.) and treat many others (sprains/strains, broken bones, etc.) This class will help you get on, and stay on, target with all your sports ventures!


Cost:
Pre-registration: $40
At the door: $45

To register: email kerry_kokkino@yahoo.com or online here.

Coming soon:

Herbs for the Perinatal Year: A workshop for birth professionals


What to eat?? A guide for navigating diet fads and how herbs can (maybe should?) play a part

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Happy Health Hormones!!

Supporting your teen, pre-teen, or self through hormone highs and lows



Learn how to support the body's health hormone cycles with food, exercise, herbs, and rest. This should be a light, fun, and useful conversation. We will be tasting samples of different herbal teas, and you will leave with a bag of loose-leaf herbs to brew your own balance and contentment at home. Come for an enjoyable opportunity to reconnect, with your own ups and downs, or with your growing child!

Saturday, June 21st, 3-6 pm
Boston Martial Arts Center
161 Harvard Ave, #4E, Allston

Class is $40 and covers the discussion, materials, and tea
Online access to the video of the class is $30

Registration for the class is open NOW until June 7th! EXTENDED: July 14th!

For more information, or to register by mail contact Kerry Kokkinogenis at kerry_kokkino@yahoo.com

To register online click here.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Vaccines: A (truly) balanced review

Greetings! It has been a very long time since I posted here, and I apologize for that. (I'm sure someone was waiting with bated breath. :) ) Ten years after I had my second child, I find I am pregnant again. (How did that happen?! Ok, yes, I know how that happened, but still...) This surprise has led me to research again all the decisions we made for the first two. This research has mostly been productive. Despite most parenting topics having been made unnecessarily contentious, there is *usually* at least one or two unbiased sources. Vaccines, sadly, are not in that category. I have dug and found the least biased, and then put them together, along with a conversation with a flexible (and pro-vaccine) pediatrician to come up with a plan for us. After all this research, I want to share with anyone who is inclined to read it what I can. As with all parenting choices, you have to do the best you can to make the right choices for your family; this post is absolutely against shame and name-calling (two things that happen ridiculously often on this topic.)

First, the good things about vaccines: There have been devastating and deadly diseases, many of which vaccines, at a population level, have managed to help decrease or nearly eradicate. It should be said that vaccines are not the only player in decreasing death-due-to-infection-diseases (as compared to death from all other causes); it may not even be the main player. However, with regard to several diseases, they have played an important role. This should not be understated. Our pediatrician practiced initially in India and has first-hand experience on just how devastating and deadly some of these diseases can be. (This is why he is pro-vaccine.)

Next, the not-good things: Vaccines are inherently an assault on the immune system. This is not controversial; it has been known at least since the 1940s. It is true that the immune system (like your muscles) needs challenges to be strong, but vaccines are a big challenge. If the immune system is already diminished (from being brand-new out of the womb, from a serious cold or flu, or from any other causes), this assault may cause long-term problems for an individual. This statement is controversial. The reason for the controversy is the difference between population-based research and individual medicine (epidemiology and clinical practice.) At the population level, the correlation between vaccines and serious, long-term injury or problems is hard to prove. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It doesn't mean it does (at the population level). It is just hard to prove. However, even when a correlation doesn't exist clearly across millions of people, an individual can experience a valid injury or problem. So, both the claims that vaccines are safe (long-term) and that they cause injury can be true. As far as I can see, that seems to be the case. (This is my conclusion from reading both parental first-hand-accounts of injuries and the statistics about safety, as well as looking at the safety records of countries where their vaccine practice is less aggressive at such a young age.)

Another issue is the safety of the ingredients. The most common concern is mercury, a heavy metal that accumulates and historically causes serious neurological issues. (Remember the Hatter in Alice in Wonderland?) However, mercury is mostly absent (at least officially) in most of the children's vaccines. (The multi-dose flu vaccine still contains a significant portion of mercury.) However, aluminum is another issue. It is possible (at least hypothetically, since this issue seems to not have been researched yet) to get a toxic load of aluminum. It is something the kidneys process out of the body, but they can only do so much at a time, especially in very small people. Because aluminum is still not playing a big role in the public discourse, there has been little to no push to remove it from vaccines. Therefore, several (those for hepatitis A and B, and the vaccines commonly known by their abbreviations PCV, and DTaP) still contain very high levels of it.

So, where does that leave a parent? Here are some questions to ask (both yourself and of the research) as you decide what you will do regarding vaccines:

  • How likely is it that my child will get this disease? How prevalent is it?
  • How severe is the disease should my child get it? AND how likely is that severity? Some are normally mild, and very rarely severe.
  • How safe is the vaccine and/or its ingredients?
  • How robust is my child's immune system? (You can improve this through breastfeeding, not vaccinating while the child is sick, reducing the number of vaccines at a visit, and/or some herbs can help boost the immune system.)
  • Do vaccine reactions, immune problems, and/or neurological/sensory issues run in our family?
  • In some cases, getting vaccinated is to decrease someone else's risks. How do you feel about that responsibility? Are you able and willing to do this for others? (This question was added at the suggestion of a reader. It is valid to not be able or willing, especially if you have reason to believe your child to be vulnerable. It is also a big reason for vaccination and a reason others feel strongly about doing so.)
One place to look up the diseases and vaccines is "The Vaccine Book" by Dr. Robert Sears. The author is definitely pro-vaccine, and recommends getting all vaccines. I found his research invaluable, and only slightly dated. He does provide a broken-out schedule of vaccination as an alternative to the standard AAP vaccine schedule (which starts at birth, and at two months nails babies with six separate shots, totally 10 diseases!) However, his schedule would have you at the pediatrician's office every month for a long time. (I found that a serious draw back.) There are other recommended alternative schedules. Drs. Stephanie Cave and Donald Miller also have each published a book on vaccines and suggested alternative schedules. Each has its benefits and limitations. One problem may be (depending on your health insurance situation) that they suggest getting vaccines at times when you would not normally have an appointment, and that they suggest getting single-dose vaccines, some of which are hard-to-impossible to get these days (and even harder to get insurance to pay for.)

I took the ideas and research that these people have provided and developed (yet another) schedule that I believe will work better for us. I delayed starting until four months (time to get breastfeeding solidly started, time for the baby's immune and elimination systems to get stronger and more capable), and then limited the shots to three or less (based on the suggested schedules from some less-aggressive European countries), and limited the visited to the normally-scheduled visits. I also did a little (not much) rearranging, based on the concerns for the baby's vulnerabilities, and skipped chicken pox (which, in my opinion has too low a likelihood of severe reactions, unless the child doesn't get it as a child), rotavirus (again, in this context, where we can rehydrate a baby with severe diarrhea, this did not seem to be worthwhile to me), and the flu vaccine (which I personally feel is a bad idea in most cases.) Here is my schedule for your enjoyment:

  • 4 months: DTaP, IPV, Hib
  • 6 months: DTaP, IPV, Hib
  • 9 months: PCV, DTaP, IPV
  • 12 months: PCV, MMR, Hib
  • 15 (or 18) months: DTaP, PCV, Hib
  • 24 months: PCV, IPV, Hep A
  • 36 months: Hep A
  • 48 months: Hep B, DTaP
  • 60 months: Hep B, IPV, MMR
  • 72 months: Hep B
  • 12 years: Tdap, Meng, test for varicella immunity
I am not suggesting you should not get your baby vaccinated, or that you should, or that if you do, you should follow my schedule. My suggestion, my fervent hope, is that you will research what you can and balance the information with the good and bad of vaccines above; that you will ask yourself and the research to answer the questions I pose above, as well as any other questions you have.

Whatever choice you make, know you have made the best possible choice you can in a complicated situation with no perfect answers. Keeping that knowledge will not only help against those that are sure you did it wrong, but also help in all the other parenting choices there are to be made.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Calling all Dads/non-nursing parents of a breastfed child!

After several years of being distracted by other wonderful projects, I am finally coming back to my first breastfeeding book, "Welcome to the Milkbar! Getting Breastfeeding Started." In the foreseeable future, this book for pregnant mothers wanting to get breastfeeding off to a good start will be available as an ebook, updated and revised!

Meanwhile, I am working on a second book, "Barbacking at the Milkbar: Supporting the Breastfeeding Pair" for the support person. As crucial as we know you are, there are almost no resources available for you! However, to make it a meaningful, helpful book, I need to hear from you! If you (or someone you know) fits the description of the non-breastfeeding parent of a breastfed child, please take a moment to answer a few questions about your experience. Please know I won't share your answers in any way that will identify you without you permission. You can email answers to me directly at kitchentablehealth@yahoo.com, or answer in the comments below.

Think of this as a chance to sit over a beer or coffee with someone who needs your advice, about to embark on parenting, and no one else is around. What would you say?

Questions for Partners of Breastfeeding Mothers:

1. What was the best advice you received or discovered? How was it helpful to you?

2. What advice/knowledge would you like to have received before your baby was born? How would it have helped?

3. Where did you find information about breastfeeding? Where (or how) would you have liked to have received that information?

4. What was your role in breastfeeding? Did it change over time?

5. What would you have wanted your role to have been in breastfeeding? Would that have changed over time?

6. Would you describe your family's breastfeeding experience as successful? In what ways was it or was it not successful?

7. What other stories, anecdotes, wisdom or advice would you offer to people about to be parents and hoping to support the mom in breastfeeding?

Thank you! I really appreciate your time, thought and generosity in sharing your experiences with the next generation of parents.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Diet is a four-letter word

I'm going to say it. I'm going to take the stand and admit, not only do I not diet, but I advocate strongly against dieting. There is much damage being done by our current dieting industry and the many well-intentioned health professionals advocating dieting.

The founding principle of dieting is that dieting = weight loss = beauty. In my industry, many will argue that in the place of beauty, health should sit. However, others have argued at length and more eloquently the fallacy of this assertion, at least from a cultural/societal level. I'm going to make the bold assertion that this is wrong. All wrong. Starting from back to front.

First, let's talk about beauty. Beauty is a cultural construct. Remember the pictures in National Geographic, designed to exotify the cultures explored therein? Most of what was considered most extreme, from extended necks and lips and ear lobes, to ritual scaring, to bound feet, to face painting or headdresses, are in the name of beauty. Just a different idea of beauty than ours. However, our culture is not so terribly different, trying to sculpt the body's shape, alter the coloration and hair patterns. And our means are similar -- surgery, daily painting, deprivation or contraptions.

So what constitutes current American concepts of beauty? Look around. The actresses in shows and movies, the models in magazines and advertisements. At this moment in U.S. cultural history, they represent a body type that is only even possible for a fraction of a percent of the population. We are no longer talking about a healthy ideal for the population, but an impossible image for nearly all women looking at those pictures. Then, those actresses and models are pressured into altering their bodies to a more extreme image, one that is not healthy for them to maintain, despite having started with that rare-but-desirable body type. And, to add insult to injury, their images are manipulated so that they are even more impossibly perfect. We are constantly being told that we are not beautiful because we don't look like someone who a) is atypical for our species, b) is already killing herself -- quite literally -- to look like that, and c) has some techie carving her electronically. Sounds reasonable, right?

I'd also like to point out the absurd idea that making ourselves more attractive physically, even if it were possible on this scale, is all that desirable. How does "improving oneself" translate to physical beauty? How about wisdom, knowledge, patience, kindness? People always say they want a mate who has some of those things, who "makes me laugh," but we still know that in this culture, the expectation is to look better/thinner, not to be a better person. Take a minute to think about that idea.

Now, back to the equation. Is losing weight a desirable end? No. Not for beauty reasons. Not even for health ones. Let me give you an example. I used to know two women, friends, that liked to go out dancing together. One was thin (anorexic, but that was only figured out later), pretty and a good dancer. The other was significantly larger (outside the ideal for this culture) and very confident. Guess who got the attention. Ms. Confidence. Every time. She walked into the room with the air of someone who was stunningly beautiful. The fact that she wasn't was irrelevant to the reaction she got. She was not arrogant or rude, just absolutely confident. Her confidence made her beautiful in a way that a changed body would not. As I think through my life, time and again this principle has played out. Can you think of a time when you've seen this effect? Try this out. Stand in front of the mirror. If you stand like most women I've met, your shoulders are either rounded forward or dropped down -- not confident. Pull yourself up to your full height. How do you look now? Now imagine that with the glow of happiness and confidence. Pretty powerful stuff.

As far as health is concerned, weight, or even inches, are not the best indicator of a healthier you. I know of research that argues otherwise. It is based on populations, not on individuals (and is too numerous to link to it all here). If your lifestyle is in need of rebalancing, and that is an extremely common problem in this time and place, the results of a healthier lifestyle may not be fewer pounds or inches. First, muscle mass is heavier than fat. If you are in need of losing fat (again, a common outcome of our out-of-balance cultural context), it is likely that you will replace it with muscle, which would increase your weight on the scale, while still being healthy. You also might not be in need of losing weight at all, even while being out of balance. If you want to be healthy, look for balance and authenticity, and my next blog post for more details.

Finally, does dieting equal losing weight, anyway? Not for most people. As noted in NaturalNews, "low calorie dieting slows your metabolism, making it progressively more difficult to lose weight and keep it off. The failure rate of most diets is astronomical, yet people continue to try one after another, always hoping that each new scheme will provide the solution." In addition to a variety of real dangers posed by dieting (including emotional and physical), there is little evidence that dieting leads to a lower weight. In fact, dieting is frequently associated with weight gain, even after having controlled for a tendency towards gaining weight in the first place. Short-term symptoms of dieting include fatigue, hunger, food obsession, difficulties concentrating, to name a few. A wonderful illustration of the absurdity of dieting is provided at BodyImageHealth.org in the form of the air diet, which produces the same short-term symptoms. The long-term impacts are complex and can include self-esteem issues, disordered eating habits (with varied side-effects), immune system problems, weight gain and metabolism disruptions, growth and development delays for younger dieters, and in extreme cases death (faster and surer than overweight.)

In a nutshell, dieting ≠ weight loss ≠ beauty... or health for that matter. There. I've said it.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Getting through the Peak of Flu Season

This article was written with Katja Swift, a clinical herbalist practicing in the Boston area. By teaching people how to eat real food and use plants as medicine, she helps them to reestablish their connections to the earth, to themselves, and to one another. Contact her for more information at www.katjaswift.com.

This winter has been particularly harsh weather-wise, and while the back of the winter may have been broken (or not, time will tell), we are just now hitting what is considered the peak of flu and cold season. The timing of the two are not completely coincidental; although colds and flus are not caused by cold weather, staying inside is. When we stay inside, all snuggly warm, with drafts blocked up, the viruses that cause colds and flus are shared. So, how to make it to Spring (real, no more snow or frozen temperatures Spring) as healthy as possible?

Avoiding the flu and colds

Since no one really wants to experience the discomfort and inconvenience of a cold or flu, it makes the most sense to start with prevention.

To flu shot or to not flu shot?

I’ve previously written about why I don’t recommend flu vaccines – either annual or the H1N1. While many people (and professionals) disagree with me on this subject, at this time of year the choice is more of a fait accompli. If you got it, you got it; if not, it does not make sense to get it now. The viruses that give us colds and the flu are always mutating. The vaccine is based on last year’s strains. At best, if this year’s strains are particularly similar to last year’s the vaccine might have been 70-90% effective. If the vaccine is not as good of a match to this year’s strains, the effectiveness goes down sharply, even to not-at-all. However, as the viruses have been mutating since the vaccine was developed, it is a lot less effective to get the vaccine late in the season. Either way, there is still a lot you can do to decrease your chances of getting a cold or flu.

Mother Nature’s flu prevention: Garlic

The simplest way to boost your body’s resistance is to suck on some garlic! Peel one clove of garlic and suck on it for 15 minutes. Chewing it can be quite intense and some find it too strong for the stomach, but “gnawing” on it a little (pressing gently with your teeth) is the right idea, to gently release the oils. It’s guaranteed to give you dragon breath, but the potent virus-fighting action of garlic will be coating the throat and quickly absorbing into the blood stream. After 15 minutes, or when the “heat” of the garlic becomes uncomfortable, just spit the garlic out. Do this three times a day for best effect, whenever you’re exposed to colds or flu. Preventatively, you could do it every night before bed!

Fresh raw garlic a bit too extreme for you? Here’s a simple recipe for making the potent power of garlic more palatable: peel the skin from each clove of several heads of garlic. Fill a mason jar 2/3 of the way full with the peeled garlic cloves. Then pour apple cider vinegar into the jar until it is halfway full, and honey in until it is the rest of the way full. Put the lid on, and leave the jar on the counter: in a few weeks, the garlic will be pickled, and much more pleasant to eat! They will continue to improve over time. Eat one pickled garlic clove a day, and use the garlicky honey-vinegar in sauces and dressings.

If you love vinegar, here’s another easy recipe. It worked for the Plague, it’ll work for you! The recipe is called “Thieves’ Vinegar,” and there are many variations of the recipe and the legend available online, but here’s my favorite: Add 1/4 cup sage, 1/4 cup rosemary, 1/4 cup thyme, several red chili peppers, and at least 8 cloves of fresh garlic to a quart-sized mason jar. Cover the whole mix with apple cider vinegar, and let sit for 2-4 weeks. Take one shot-glass of the vinegar daily as a strong preventative against colds and flu. If you don’t like the taste of vinegar enough to take it daily, keep the jar around and use it as medicine the next time you get sick.

Loving that body you’re in

Your immune system, like all of your body’s systems, is really designed to deal with this. So, the best place to start is by supporting your body in its efforts.

  • Nutrition: A well-nourished body is better equipped to fight viruses. Sugar, artificial flavors and colors and pesticides all decrease the body’s capacity to fight off infections. So, start with whole foods and include a wide variety of foods, especially plants for lots of nutrients. Avoid pre-processed convenience foods and food-like snacks. While they fill your belly, they leave you weakened and unbalanced nutritionally.
  • Rest: Yes, you really need those Zzzs. Researchers have found that, like nutrition, getting enough sleep is directly related to avoiding colds and flus. Personally, I visited with a friend hospitalized with the flu twice this winter already. For a few nights after each visit my body quietly requested more sleep and I followed its advice. No flu here. (This is an anecdote, and not proof at all. The proof is in the research. However, the experience really brought home the lesson for me.) If it seems like you have to sacrifice too much to get that sleep, think about what will happen to your schedule if you get the flu instead.
  • Washing those hands of yours: Our hands are in everything, and it is when we carry the viruses on them (from the air or surfaces that we touch) into our eyes, nose or mouth that we give ourselves a cold or flu. Fortunately, simply washing with soap and water (for a good 20 seconds) is enough to kill the majority of viruses available (as well as most bacteria, fungi, and assorted yucky stuff.) Anti-bacteria soaps are unnecessary and cause more problems.

What to do if you get sick anyway

Despite our best efforts, it is always possible (and in the big picture fairly likely) that we will catch something at least once in a while. Here are ways to support your body’s capacity to fight off the virus, which will help you feel better and get back to your normally scheduled life sooner.

Flu Treatment

Your immune system will do the heavy lifting, the actual fighting off of the virus. You can support your immune system's efforts (resting well, eating well, and washing well), and you can treat the symptoms for a little bit of comfort while you wait:

  • Hot water helps with congestion: Hot steamy showers or baths, or a hot cup of tea or soup held up to your nose, can help to steam your sinuses loose a little.
  • Kitchen remedies for congestion: horseradish, cayenne or jalapeƱo, and wasabi. You can choose the one that you like best. In most cases, you don’t even need to eat these things in order to clear your sinuses – simply opening the jar and breathing deeply can be enough to get your faucet running!
  • Use gravity: Sleep and rest in a semi-reclined position to let gravity drain your nose enough to let you breath.
  • Ginger, clove and cinnamon: For sore throats, a tea made by boiling whole cloves can (temporarily) soothe the discomfort. A tea from boiling whole ginger and cinnamon will support your body’s heating up. If you boil all three together, they also taste really lovely.
  • Cooling off a (too high) fever: Remember that normally (almost always) your fever is good for you (see Is it a bug or a feature below). If your fever does get high enough to cause you serious concern, try some peppermint tea to let the heat out (in a cleansing sweat). For a slow cooling, a cool compress to the forehead and wrists.
  • Grandma’s Thyme Steam: Take a pot of water at a rolling boil, and set it on a table. Being careful not to burn yourself, make a “tent” over your head with a towel or a blanket, and lean over to inhale the steam. Add two handfuls of good quality dried thyme, and/or sage and oregano. All three of these plants have potent volatile oils that are strongly anti-microbial. When you add them to the pot of boiling water, those volatile oils are released into the steam, and you inhale them right into your respiratory tract, and lungs.

How to slow the spread in your family

Once one person in the family gets sick, it’s just a matter of time before everyone else gets it, right? Well, maybe. If this strain is new to you and your family, and different enough from other colds and flus you have been exposed to, it is pretty likely that it will go from person to person; if it is similar enough to a strain you have been exposed to previously, on the other hand, you may not even notice it passing by. Either way, there is a bit you can do to decrease your chances of others getting it (other than banishing the sickly one to the basement):

  • Back to the basics: Make sure that everyone gets as much sleep as their bodies are asking for, eats as healthy as possible, and washes their hands as much as possible.
  • Air it out: Open the windows whenever possible to air out the space – even just 5 or 10 minutes can bring in fresh clean air, decreasing the concentration of the cold or flu virus in the air. Less in the air means you are exposed to less.
  • Anti-microbial spray: You can also make up a spray bottle of water with 10-20 drops of essential oil of rosemary and 10-20 drops of essential oil of lavender. This combination is anti-microbial, boosts energy and the immune system, and has been found in French state hospital trials to kill germs as well, and for a longer period of time than chemical sterilizing agents. Plus, it smells nice! Spray it frequently around the house, lightly spray the bedding when you’re ready to get up for a little while (leave the blankets open to air out), use it to wipe down counters – you can even use it to moisten a handkerchief before use (damp handkerchiefs feel better on a raw nose)!

Antibiotics and viruses

Antibiotics kill bacteria. Viruses are not bacteria. If you are fighting a viral infection (and colds and flus are viral), antibiotics won’t work. Frequently it seems like they worked because they take a week or two to finish, during which time your body has fought off the virus (and the imbalance to your good bacteria caused by the unnecessary use of antibiotics). Some doctors report being pressured into prescribing antibiotics by patients (or patients’ parents). Others want to give a patient (or patient’s parent) something tangible, and when the cause is a virus, there isn’t much they can really do. Either way, antibiotics can be counter-productive except when a bacterial infection needs to be addressed.

Is it a “bug” or a “feature”?

Interesting tid-bit about cold and flu symptoms: they aren’t actually caused by the virus. The symptoms that we associate with colds and flus (fever, runny nose, coughing, aches and pains, etc.) are actually caused by our own immune system doing its very best to end the viral infection. Fevers, for example, kill off viruses that cannot survive the higher temperatures. Extra mucus (runny and/or stuff nose) is created to protect the body from the invasive virus. Glands swell (for example in your throat) as they fight the virus trapped there (to keep it from getting into the rest of your body.) Sore throats are frequently a side-effect of either the extra mucus or swelling in the area, and aches and pains are frequently a side-effect of the fever. So, as much as no one likes the symptoms, if we are too good at defeating them, our bodies will have a very hard time fighting off the virus – like asking a boxer to go into the ring with his hands tied behind his back. In addition, like any system (think of your muscles), the immune system needs the exercise to be good at its job; each cold or flu helps protect you from nastier stuff down the road.

Realistic expectations

Despite what schools and workplaces expect, a cold is expected to last 1 to 2 weeks – weeks, not days. The flu can really knock you out for several days with a high fever, and you can really feel the flu for 10 days to 2 weeks. This is normal. While there are reasons you would go to the doctor with a flu or cold, it is important to know that it is not realistic to expect even a simple cold to be gone in a day or two. Just settle in with the blankets, the soup, the tea, and let your body rest.

So, eat well, sleep well, and wash well. You will be taking care of yourself for you and those that depend on you, and you will decrease how much your schedule is disrupted by colds and flus. And soon (only a month or two) we will emerge from yet another cold and flu season into the sunshine of Spring and Summer. This too shall pass.

Friday, January 14, 2011

The Meaning of Snow

Just a few days ago, the National Weather Service reported that 49 states had snow on the ground. (Florida, not Hawai'i, was the hold out.) Friends from Southern states were commenting that their towns were shut down for days as they lacked the capacity to deal with the white frozen stuff, while friends nearby (we had just received 12-20 inches of snow in my area) were lamenting the strain and challenges of shoveling and snowblowing. The conversation could well have been filed under "First real snow of the year" and filed for next year around this time. At least here in the North East, we really seem to enjoy talking about the weather, so this conversation will undoubtably be used again and again. In fact, we are due to receive more snow in a few days.

As I shoveled (and shoveled and shoveled), after contemplating the weight of the snow (especially wet and heavy) and before I started to contemplate my physical limitations, I discovered several benefits of snow. In the interest of sharing joy and health, and of preparing for next week's expected storm, I wanted to share these discoveries with you.

The first unmistakable benefit of snow hits you before you have even walked out, when you open your eyes in the morning after the snow has fallen. The world is measurably brighter! The sun is shining, having emptied the clouds, and that sunshine reflects and refracts all over the place. It is stunning. The increased light, especially at this time of increased darkness, is healing to the psyche; it feels good. It also can remind us to think with greater clarity, to avoid hiding behind the veils of drama that we can add to any situation. When we add drama, we can not see a situation honestly, we usually upset ourselves which decreases our health, and we find it much harder to find a way out of those situations. When we see our lives more clearly, the acts of others carry no additional, unhelpful, meaning. That simplicity is beautiful and helpful in and of itself.

The next benefit that strikes the senses, is the quiet. Snow's blanket over all the hard and sharp surfaces softens the bouncing sound waves. I live in the city, and this difference is huge. The constant background noise of buses and trucks and cars and people and dogs and horns and... that accompanies me all day and night throughout the rest of the year is turned down when it snows. It is a wonderful relief. The sudden quiet also encourages meditation and inward seeking (hence this blog post.) This is not surprising as many cultures that experience these seasonal changes see deep winter as a spiritual, inward-facing time of the year.

Quickly, the next benefit manifests itself: slow down. One cannot run through snow. One can not rush shoveling. All one can do is pick the snow up and put it down, carefully pick your way down the street, whether walking or driving. You are required to pay attention to this moment. While shoveling, not paying attention can lead to muscle strain or pinched nerves. While walking, it can lead to a spill, and while driving an accident can result. The roads have changed shape and size and the sidewalks are multidimensional and slippery; autopilot is simply not an option. Being here, now, for this unique and precious moment and aware of our surroundings is a huge gift! By slowing down and doing less multitasking, our health and well-being are enhanced. As I've mentioned before, if we are not aware of this day, it is as if it never happened. By requiring us to be more aware, we have the gift of moments, hours, days we would have missed otherwise.

Finally, the last gift is that of community. As we shovel snow, we recognize that we are all in the same boat, and barriers between people can come down. We also can not ignore that we are interconnected; where I put my snow will impact those around me if I am not thoughtful. This gift was brought more strongly to my attention this year. We have had neighbors that we have barely seen since they arrived last summer. I have judged them unkindly over that time. Earlier this week, as we shoveled together, up to our knees in the same snow, I got to know them a little bit. I feel far more empathy for them (this was the first snow they have seen in their lives, and they were unsure on where to even begin in the digging out). I also know that they have benefited by starting to know their neighbors and starting to connect with their community. Over the years of living in this city, frequently known for its lack of kindness by some stereotypes, I have always enjoyed this change in temperament the most! And, as I've mentioned before, community is a key ingredient in health.

These are not all of snow's gifts to us. There is physical activity and exercise involved with snow -- whether you are moving through it or trying to relocate it -- and there is cleaner air to breath, just to name a few. Yes, snow is inconvenient, and even now the clean white blanket is a dirty coating in many places. But, it is also a gift to be enjoyed.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

What every baby needs... a (not) shopping list

A friend of mine is due any second now with her second baby, and it brings me back to those pre-first-baby days of worry... Do we have enough? Do we have the right things? What are the right things??? Everywhere we turned, the list of what was necessary, desirable or inevitable kept growing. "Do you have a swing? You can't get by without a swing!" "You can't go for a walk if you don't have the right stroller..." "If you're going to breastfeed, then you'll need a pump." It was crazy! And the times only got more so in the intervening years; the stroller I see most in my middle-class neighborhood is the one I first saw in a photograph of a celebrity (and which costs nearly $1000!) So, for a little sanity, here is a list of what is really, really necessary:

1. One fetus ready to be birthed
2. One mother ready to birth (biologically ready; rarely do we ever feel psychologically ready)
3. A supportive community

That's it. Really. Ok, once the baby is born, a few more things are useful, but not nearly as many of those as one could be led to believe!

What not to buy (at least not right away):
An online checklist (pretty typical of its kind) from The New Parents' Guide suggests no less than 42 items (many of which are for several of its kind), which if purchased new would easily cost the new family over $1000 for the big-ticket items (bought modestly based on the website's recommendations) before getting into clothes, wash cloths, diapers, bottles, creams, bras, etc., etc., etc.

So, let's pare down this list a bit. The first item on everyone's list is an infant car seat, preferably one that connects into a whole travel system. If the baby will be going in a car, yes, an infant car seat is the only safe place for her. Of course, we are assuming that you will be transporting your baby in a car. If you birth at home, baby doesn't need to go anywhere any time soon. Once, you are ready to go out into the world with your baby, there are other ways to carry that little one.

In place of the car seat/stroller travel system (which is far less expensive than the fancy infant strollers and jogging strollers, but still cost a couple hundred), may I suggest wearing your baby? At least when walking around (not in a car ever), a wrap or baby pack is far more relaxing for baby (and therefore for the parent in question). In fact, a good one will cost you less than a comparable stroller ($50 for a great versatile one with good instructions, versus $300 easily for a stroller that can accommodate an infant at one time and a toddler later).

Cribs are another big expense; typically $200 for a low-end new crib and another $100 for the mattress, plus covers, sheets, bumpers. Plus, many people get both a crib and a bassinet or pack-n-play (another $70-200) for the new infant. I'm going to propose a crazy idea, one that has been used for millennia (successfully) and is supported by good solid research: co-sleeping. Bed-sharing can be easier, more gentle and safe for all involved. When looking at ways to make your adult bed safe for your infant, definitely read the guidelines. In addition to what the experts will tell you, I found the least expensive route was to move our mattress to the floor (away from the walls). This part of our lives didn't last all that long in hindsight until the baby was ready to move in to her sister's room and a big-girl bed (although my partner would not have believed that at the time). Co-sleeping became a lesson in parenting in general: they grow and change too fast to rush it!

Diapering is another big expense, or can be. From personal experience, I can honestly say that cloth diapers (laundered at home) are not really any harder than disposable. (Parenting is tough; diapering is inconsequential compared to that!) It is also a lot less expensive (a starter set of diapers can cost up to $75, which might get you through a month of disposable diapering.)

There is also the question of whether diapers are necessary at all, when compared to a practice commonly called elimination communication. A friend once told me that "it's not natural" to keep a baby sitting in its own waste all day (not the same waste, of course). I can not say if it is easy or challenging from personal experience as I heard of it after my youngest had been diaper free for several years. If given another chance, I think I would try it though. With dropping the diaper, we can also lose the diaper pail and diaper rash ointments. Not a bad deal in my mind.

The last item on my "needs to be questioned" list is the breast pump. I am so very for breastfeeding (cost and convenience and confidence...), and pumped for both my babies when they were babies and I was away in an office. It is not the usefulness of a breast pump under the circumstances for which it was designed that I question, but it arriving at a baby shower. As Kathy Abbott, IBCLC, (the Curious Lactivist) said at a basics of breastfeeding workshop given by the Nursing Mothers' Council, giving a pregnant woman a breast pump gives new mothers the message "you can't breastfeed without this machine," not a helpful message at all. A pump, if needed, should be purchased once you know what you need it for; breastfeeding only requires a baby and the mother.

What you really will need:
This all takes me to the one item on my list that the checklists don't include (maybe because it can't be purchased): community. The mother's partner (you know, the snuggly one on the other side of the bed) is a good place to start. There are a million ways for the partner to be involved with the mom, with the baby, with parenting, from the beginning. This can relieve the stresses of adapting to parenthood on mom (at least there's someone else in this with you!), and keep everyone connected.

Community also extends beyond this tiny family unity, though. In all the advice to prevent or decrease the stresses of having a new baby, community comes up again and again. This is both practical (not trying to do it all, have a list of things visitors/family/friends can do for you), and emotional (having people who listen and understand.) New parents should take the time to recognize that this is a big transition, all new parents go through it (although differently), you are not alone! Surround yourself with people who are supportive and helpful. Other new parents can be found in the baby/kid section of the local library and at the local (toddler-friendly) playground during school mornings. Go for walks and say "hi" to people. Offer the kind of friendship you are looking for; it can inspire others to return the favor. It all comes back around to you in time.

In addition to this peer community, it is also good to know where you can get sound advice if you need it. Finding a pediatrician that is respectful of your parenting choices is well worth the effort. There are also organizations and other resources to help you figure out the logistics of your choices. For example, if you run into challenges with getting breastfeeding started, for example, there are volunteer organizations (a few) with well trained volunteers, and professionals that can help.

So, make sure you've got good people around you, and then enjoy the fleeting days of babyhood. At least you know that most of the stuff isn't worth worrying about.